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Stop blaming yourself for everything.

What do you call the feeling of nothingness? Days go past with consistency, one like the other. Regularly you wake, postpone, reluctant to do anything, brush your teeth and hair, see yourself in a mirror with tired eyes needing to juke the world.  Everybody you meet asks for carrier, marriage, education as if life is some grocery list . No one asks if if you're happy or satisfied . Meanwhile , dont go too hard on yourself. Give things some space to settle there course. If you're reading this and having a terrible day. Realize that you've worked superbly and I'm proud for you. Not everyday is yours and THAT'S OKAY Every thing comes on its assigned time, WAIT, wait for your time to come. Doesn't matter how many times you fall, RISE, rise again and give yourself a try. The day you'll understand that everything that is happening is the best in your favor, THAT IS YOUR DAY. Dont waste yourself on thinking of something that is not in your hand. Relax, Relax...

Melancholy

It’s natural to feel sad. It’s part of being human. No matter how bad the situation, even if the suffering feels endless, there’s light at the end of the tunnel. The Almighty has promised us. He won’t burden us beyond our capacity. He will give us the strength that we need!

Allah's Plans.

There's always a sadness in ecstacy. Ever been in that phase where you laugh a lot but deep down you know there's something hitting your nerves?  Laughing untill your stomach hurts but still feeling that emptiness in your soul?  It's not about the feeling of completion you need the most, it's about not feeling that much empty. You can be happy and sad at the same time. But there's nothing wrong in accepting what is being rewarded to you after a lot of hardships. You can't be declared a despicable by accepting the fact that what you've craved for in the past was not written for you but there's something better for you written in LOH-E-MEHFOOZ. You know what it is? It's a book in which our destiny is written by Allah. Our every single deed. Our every single act.  Stay put. Stay strong. Stay faithful.  Allah's will is more important than your cravings. Allah's plans are better than your desires.

Stop waiting for Permission to be who you want

Once, that i have reached a certain age, i have become uninterested in so many things. This surely sounds boring to alot of people that are around me. But these adult life changes are different for everyone and for some people these changes never occur. I hope one day, we become capable of understanding the differences. I have intentionally refused to go out with friends because those days were hard on me and you might have refused for some other reason but this surely doesn't make any of us any less interested in having best time of our lives. It just needs the right people to understand you,that despite knowing ur true intentions behind ur decision they decide not to label you for not giving same response as everyone else. Once u find such people, never let them go. Because they really know about maintaining a balance between caring and providing space.

Gaslight!

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Do not allow a person to make you think they’re the victim when they’re clearly the assaulter. Some people thrive on your insecurities. They win discussions by throwing guilt on you, Making you doubt your own actions, Saying things like ‘You’re imagining all this. It’s only in your head’. This is a narcissist’s way of being the upper hand And never owning up to their actions, By keeping you in doubt all the time, While always wearing a mask of confidence that makes everything they say sound very real. You start to wonder if you’re truly imagining everything and being unfair to them,  When in reality you’re just being manipulated and your reality is being altered to their benefit. As time passes, they strip you off your ability to make rational judgements and your perception of reality becomes completely disoriented. Always trust your gut feeling. See the pattern. If a person disregards your feelings by turning tables and making themselves the victim instead, Face t...

She believed she could so she did!

The moments in life come and go. Some of them are good and some are bad but have you ever been in the moment when you don't want to leave soneone but you have to. Have you ever realized the intensity of the pain in that moment. The moment where you're so confused between the two options that you have to prefer death rather than to make any decision. The moment where you think that you won't be able to make it but you did. Because it's not always about the decision, it's about how firmly you stand by that. One decision can change your life. All you need is to believe in yourself. Stay strong and firm on that decision. She believed she could so she did!

Steps towards happiness again..

Friendship.  A very powerful word. A word with a bond. A bond that’s shared. Only a few know the real value of this word and respect it, the rest, they use it for their own benefits.  So who is a true friend? A true friend is one who doesn’t talk shit behind your back, who defends you in every scenario. Someone who is always there for you, day and night, whenever you need them. They will do sacrifices for you, big or small, they will. They will respect you. They will be thankful to you, your existence. Someone who you can open up to and talk about literally everything and they’ll help you in every possible way. A kind of friend who can listen to your same rants for months and never getting bored or bothered by it. You laugh together, cry together, and enjoy life together. They can’t see you in a low state ever. We all have them. Someone who will take out time for us daily to ask about our day and all. Call sessions, roasting sessions and daily meetups, they all fit. They w...